Dear Doulas,

Sometimes I find things so frustrating when they take soooo much longer than I want them to.  Whether it’s completing a project or even writing this postcard, it just doesn’t seem to happen quickly or efficiently enough.  Over the years I’ve had to learn that being in harmony is more deeply satisfying than focusing on accomplishing goals. The bonus is that everything does happen to get completed – even if the timing is just “good enough” and not perfect.   

Follow the energy.  If it feels like you’re forcing things to be a certain way, just stop.  Take a breath and feel what seems most appropriate right now.  If you think about the energy in the room or for that project, where does it lead you?  Do you have a dinner date with your mate but you’d both rather take a nap than dress up? Did you make a date for sex but would rather watch a movie? Are you forcing yourself to work on one project when you’re better suited to work on another today? By abandoning any preconceived notion about how things are supposed to be and following the energy that is there, you are more in sync with your surroundings and pattern of your life.  This requires honesty with yourself and those you care for. But often they are feeling similarly!

Set a strong foundation so that when the energy is there, you’ll be ready.  If it's a big project make sure supplies are available. 

Keep moving forward.  Even if all the day isn’t unfolding how you would like, do a small action that keeps you going towards your goal or completion of your project. Kiss and hold your partner and be fully present with them in the moment. That is healthier than any sex you don't want. By revealing how you are really feeling, you create emotional intimacy and that's a plus. 

Now my examples pertain to your personal life, but the same attitude of following the energy applies to launching a new business or large societal change. If we are fighting others we are combating the energy not flowing with it. That doesn’t mean we give up trying to lower the cesarean rate, it just means we adjust and focus on the opportunities in front of us. We do what we can that day, being in harmony with the cycles of our lives and those around us. 

It’s okay to choose harmony and be good enough!